Why “start” beats “stop”
In 2020, Martin Oscarsson and colleagues at Stockholm University followed more than a thousand people's New Year's resolutions for a year (PLOS ONE). People whose resolutions were approach-oriented, aiming toward something new, were significantly more likely to report success than people with avoidance-oriented resolutions, aiming to stop or avoid something.
A likely reason: "don't" goals give you nothing to do when the urge arrives, and every slip feels like failure. "Do" goals give you an action to take, which fits with if-then planning.
Four steps for resolutions that last
- Choose two or three. Not ten.
- Flip each to approach. Use the planner above.
- Make it SMART. Add a number and a date in the SMART goals worksheet.
- Make it daily. Add the action to your habit tracker, and put the picture of why on your vision board.
Missed the 1st of January? Research on the "fresh start effect" (Dai, Milkman & Riis, 2014) found people are more likely to start goals after any new beginning: a Monday, the first of a month or a birthday.